Here are some affirmations that are in that previous post. I still use variations of these every week:
- You used all the blocks to build your tower.
- I can tell you are really thinking about this.
- Your paper is covered with paint. Tell me what you did.
- You worked together to finish that large floor puzzle.
- Thank you for helping put away the dishes. We make a great team!
- You are working hard to finish that.
- We did it! Give someone a high five!
- You came up with a great solution to that problem.
Here are some other words I use regularly with kids:
- What do you think?
- I never thought about that.
- Really? Tell me more.
- Good idea! Let's try it!
But more than the words I use, I need to use my ears. Children don't have many people who will truly listen to what they are saying. A few minutes of looking in a child's eyes and listening to his words (and what's behind the words) can build lasting friendship. And help a child know that his words are worth listening to.
And I often hear some great stories and some great ideas!